There's not much moderation in this city. It honestly thrives on extremes.
Lesson #5 in moving to NYC (and this one is specific to NYC, not any city): Don't worry about fitting in and being "normal" (whatever that even means, I sometimes feel so detached that I don't even know). There's basically no such thing as 'normal' or 'ordinary' people here, and pretty sure people don't move to this city to "fit in."
This city draws people from every extreme walk of life, and it seems like people's lives get even more amazingly bizarre while living here. So I'm learning to just own it, be exactly who I am, and just grow in a city that could really care less (which is both a positive and negative, but that's another story...)